Tuesday, June 10, 2008

Sad News.

My sister passed over yesterday. Unbelievably, she had been suffering from Breast Cancer without telling a single soul (unfortunately including her doctor). I knew she was unwell, but never dreamt it was anything so serious. She came to stay with me a couple of weeks ago, and after a couple of call outs from my own GP (who she refused to allow an examination), I eventually caught sight of what I thought was a bruise on her upper chest. When I pulled back her nightie, I was mortified by what I saw. She has never been in hospital and was too terrified to tell anyone. By then, however, it was far too late. She had been suffering with her breathing and I thought she maybe had pneumonia or pleurisy - hence my constant calls to my doc, but when the ambulance (called by my doc) arrived, it was obvious it was far far worse than I could possibly have dreamt of. Within a couple of hours of arrival at the hospital, I was told it had spread throughout her body and she had possibly 24 hours to live. I stayed with her 24 hours a day throughout the next few days and she passed Monday morning 9th June at 8.30.

I don't know what I will do without her. We drove each other nuts sometimes, as Sisters do, but she was always there for me when I needed her, and vice versa I like to think. After her husband died on March 29th this year, we only had each other. We had lost our mum when I was 12 (she was 22), and our Dad 5 years ago. We had decided to buy a house together and she was going to invest in my business so that instead of working for me, she would be a partner. She was so excited, but yet she was hiding this secret that was going to ensure none of this ever happened. Why didn't she tell me? Cos she knew I would make her have treatment - no matter what. Instead, she left it too late, and now she has gone. I am devastated.

This is the last picture I ever took of her. I took her away for her birthday in April this year. Who would have believed that 6 weeks later she would be gone.

5 comments:

Sarah aka Flo said...

oh Sally I'm so sorry

I met your sister that one time, and she seemed like a lovely person, with a bit of a mischievous side to her too, which I liked

you have been hit by curve ball after curve ball these past couple of years - I hope this is the end of it for you, I really do

xxxxx

Pam said...

oh my-I don't know you at all-just stumbled across your blog- what a sad time your family is having.My very best wishes to you all-it's time for some good news.

Anonymous said...

This is my first visit to your blog and I was struck with how much you have had to deal with. I send you my sympathies with regard to your sister. I imagine her passing will take some time to come to terms with. Wishing you an easier future.

Lorraine said...

thinking about you Sally..hope life gets better for you soon

Heather said...

So very sorry